Happy New Moon in Virgo! This New Moon becomes exact on Friday, August 30 at 6:37 a.m. EDT (11:37 GMT).
After this past airy, expansive Full Moon in Aquarius, the sun and moon in Virgo now pull us back down to Earth. As the most grounded of the Earth signs, Virgo implores us to, well, get our sh*t together.
Are there responsibilities in your life that you have been avoiding? Is there something you need to take care of? How is your physical body feeling? How are your finances? Is your house clean? Is your business organized? These are the type of questions that Virgo season forces us to address.
To figure out what you need to work on during Virgo season, start with what's closest to you – your own flesh and bones. How has your body been feeling? Have you been sleeping enough? Have you been exercising? Are you eating well? Are there some medical issues that need to be addressed?
Virgo season is the best time of the year to do a cleanse. I recently found out that I am high in several heavy metals, including cesium, from eating way too much fish the past few years. So I am going to be embarking on a heavy metal cleanse starting this coming week.
If you've never cleansed before, I would advise you to seek the counsel of a naturopath, functional medicine doctor, or a medical intuitive like myself. You can cleanse with juices, raw foods, fasting, supplements, or a combination of the aforementioned.
Have you learned how to breathe properly yet? I know it sounds bizarre, but the vast majority of the world is still breathing quite shallowly. Perhaps that's why we still live in a world of such strife. Perhaps if all the world leaders could do some abdominal breathing together, we might be able to solve our problems as a human race.
I am by no means a meditation master, yoga master, or a breatharian; however, I have practiced abdominal breathing for years and because of that I instantly have a go-to tool whenever I need to relax my nervous system. As you'd probably guess, I rarely get anxiety, because I remember to breathe deeply the majority of the time.
Virgo season is the perfect time to start (or re-start) a daily meditation practice. Oftentimes I get asked this question: what kind of meditation would be best for me? My answer always depends on what I read is going on inside the person, however for people who are ungrounded, scattered, or nervous, I always recommend to just focus on learning and practicing abdominal breathing. It's not as fun or sexy as doing guided meditations, however it is absolutely crucial for the journey of Awakening. We absolutely can't leave it out.
CLEANING HOUSE (LITERALLY)
Does your living space, work space, or car feel like it reflects peace and order back to you, or chaos and anxiety? It is absolutely true that a dirty space causes anxiety and depression. I want to make it very clear that I'm not coming at you from a place of being high and mighty and perfect when it comes to cleanliness. When I was in my 20s, I used to basically live in my car, as all my jobs required a lot of driving, and I was constantly traveling too. The back seat of my car was so stacked with sporting equipment, blankets, clothing, and literal garbage that I could never give anyone a ride in my car. I've gotten a lot better now, as my car is pretty clean and organized.
If you're going to embark on some literal house cleaning during Virgo season, I would suggest following the Japanese principle that if an object does not bring positive vibes, it should be given away, sold, or disposed of. It's not easy, but when you can become comfortable with letting go of material items you are definitely going to be more able to let go of negative people, beliefs, and patterns as well.
Have you ever been in the house of a hoarder? I have. It's extremely uncomfortable. The people in the house always tend to have dense energy fields themselves. Their inner depression, confusion, and inability to let go is reflected in their home.
Naturally, let's talk about that other, reflective aspect of density. What does it feel like you are hoarding in your energy field? Are you hanging onto a past lover who has no intention of ever loving you again? Are you hanging onto guilt, shame, or resentment from the past? Do you feel weighed down by someone else's energy who is close to you? Have you let yourself get overtaken by the illusion of worry?
It might be helpful to journal on the above inquiries. Once you've become aware of what you are holding on to (or what is holding on to you), you can harness these Virgo energies and use your willpower to let go of it.
WILLPOWER, BOUNDARIES & COMMUNICATION
Virgo is ruled by Mercury, who is the king of communication. During Virgo season, you can expect to experience both enhanced communications in some instances as well as miscommunications in others. The one issue that will certainly come up during Virgo season will be around the theme of boundaries.
Are you someone who can readily say 'no'? Or do you always find yourself feeling obligated to do things you don't want to do? Do you find people are constantly asking you for help and you always oblige, yet when you need help from those same people they are nowhere to be found?
It took me many years to learn this particular lesson. I used to always be the one to do everything for everyone else, and I found it hard to say 'no' to anyone because I feared people being mad at me. But once I started getting on with my Awakening journey, I soon learned that I had to weed out the types of people that I spent my time with, and to manage my time so I wasn't doing too many favors for people.
I eventually started becoming very good at saying no. The funny thing is, as a sports referee in my life prior to my Awakening I became extremely good at boundaries during games, because I had to. I became a pretty well-respected official in my community, for the most part. But it took me much longer to master that lesson of boundaries in my personal life.
This tendency affected my romantic life, too. I would fawn over girls who had no interest in me other than as an option to hang out with only when they were bored or their other option wasn't around. And when I would get into a relationship, I would be so fearful that they would leave me because I was inadequate that I wouldn't know how to keep enough space between myself and her, and soon she'd lose interest.
Nowadays, I am an expert at boundaries. I don't let people take advantage of me in my business life or in my personal life. Although there are many tactics that are involved in getting good at setting boundaries, the most important tactic is good communication.
Oftentimes, people who struggle with setting boundaries walk around life with an assumption that people should just know what their boundaries and then end up feeling offended when someone inevitably infringes on the boundaries that they never made it clear that they had. Now, we don't need to tell everyone our boundaries when we first meet them, as that would be socially awkward behavior, however it's important to tell people right away when they have infringed on your boundaries, so they know not to do it again.
A good boundary statement goes something like this: “Thank you for that, however in the future please do not ______, as that is one of my boundaries. Thank you for respecting my boundaries.” Note: if it was something especially egregious, you many want to avoid the “thank you for that” part to avoid confusion.
Please note that one of the most important aspects of making a boundary statement is that you don't put any emotion behind it. You want to be stern and direct, not angry. People respect stern and direct (think of a cop or, yes, a referee). If you say your boundary statement like you are angry or hurt, the other person may sense your vulnerability and try to engage you in an argument.
Please also note that if someone is physically harming you or if you feel that you are in danger of physical harm, please forget about a boundary statement and just GET AWAY. Call the proper authorities if necessary.
The most difficult people in your life to set proper boundaries with may very well be family members. They have known you for a long time, and they may think that it's OK to treat you like they treated you when you were a child. They may not be able to see or perceive how you have evolved.
Sometimes, explaining to these people in your life how it makes you feel when they infringe on a boundary and why you feel that way can make it easier. Make it almost like a negotiation. Maybe there's a way that you are speaking to or treating that family member that they don't appreciate, but there hasn't been the opportunity for an open dialogue so that you and him or her could discuss it. This type of approach is a good idea in romantic relationships, as well.
Sometimes, that family member (or partner or friend or co-worker) just won't listen and isn't open to dialogue about your boundaries. In that case, you may need to walk away from the relationship. Nothing is more important than your own self-respect and that you only allow yourself to be respected by others. This is a crucial lesson for Virgo season.
IMPROVING INNER DIALOGUE
As I have said, Virgo is concerned with communication, as it is ruled by Mercury. Thus far we have discussed the theme of communication with others, but what about dialogue with yourself?
One of the most difficult aspects of the Awakening journey is the challenge of mastering your mental body. In order to master this lesson, it requires a great amount of discipline and practice. Someone with little control over their mind will be able to progress spiritually in many ways, but will not be able to become as happy as someone who as really learned to master their mind.
When it comes to this topic, one of the most important things to understand is that thinking is not always the same mechanism. Sometimes you are actively thinking thoughts--for example while you are logically trying to solve a problem--while other times thoughts are actually thinking you. The reason for this is something called T-Fields.
T-Fields are clouds of energy that are located within your energy field and in spaces in homes and businesses, especially where a lot of people tend to hang out. T-fields can be passed from person to person kind of like a virus. This is why if you have dinner with some pretty negative people, for example, you're probably going to start thinking negatively yourself. And if you have dinner with some really positive, upbeat people, your thoughts are going to become more positive!
This is why your living environment really matters. If you live with negative people, you are going to be more likely to be haunted by negative thoughts because of the T-fields. If you live in a building with a lot of dark energy, you likewise are going to be subject to more negative thoughts if you haven't sufficiently cleansed your living space spiritually.
So whether you know it or not, most of the time thoughts are actually thinking you, and not the other way around. The more that you cleanse your energy field and do your spiritual work, you are able to let go of the subconscious patterns that were unconsciously imprinted on you by your parents or caregivers when you were between the ages of zero and six. As you shift these subconscious patterns into more supportive subconscious patterns, naturally the resonant T-fields in your aura will shift to more positive T-fields. If you are then able to surround yourself with positive people more of the time, you will find your thoughts permanently shifting for the better.
The other thing that is really important to remember when it comes to improving your inner dialogue is the breath. People who breathe shallowly most of the time tend to not have the most supportive inner dialogue, as when the breathing is shallow, the nervous system is stressed. A stressed nervous system will generally produce stressed thoughts.
When you remember to breathe deeply as you are going about your day, you are likely to experience a levity in your thoughts. This is why, as I said, I recommend a daily deep breathing practice for most everyone.
Here's a good 2-step process for getting yourself out of a spiral of negative thinking:
1) Take 3 deep breaths into the abdomen, extending the length of the exhale with each successive breath
2) Ask yourself this question: What can I be grateful for, right now? Speak what you are grateful for out loud or in your head.
I am wishing you a wonderful New Moon in Virgo! With Love,
Matthew John P.S. I have a WEBINAR coming up next week called Awakening the Divine Masculine! Check out the details and register here.